Couples therapists report a 50% increase in female
infidelity. The cover story in the current issue of
Newsweek magazine is all about cheating wives: “The New
Infidelity – From Office Affairs to Internet Hook-Ups, More
Wives Are Cheating Too.” Yet, as widespread as female
infidelity has become, many unsuspecting husbands have no
idea their wives are having an affair. They often find
themselves in a situation like David in the Newsweek
article, who found out his wife was cheating the day she
told him she wanted a divorce. Unsuspecting husbands are
often surprised when they learn about a cheating wife’s
extramarital affair. But, the stark reality is that if a
husband isn’t familiar with the signs of infidelity, by the
time he finds out his wife is cheating, it’s usually too
late.
Yet many of the signs may have been there all
along. A woman doesn’t become a cheating wife
overnight. Infidelity develops in stages. In almost
every case, there are numerous telltale signs along the
way. In fact, many of the warning signs of impending
infidelity are evident long before the physical act of
infidelity actually takes place.
Know How to Spot the Telltale Signs
The husband who knows how to spot the signs of
infidelity has a fighting chance to save his marriage.
He won’t end up like John LeSage in the Newsweek
article who was devastated when he came home one day
and found that his wife of 24 years had disappeared.
John said, “I would have done a lot things differently,
but I never got the chance.” This loving, but
unsuspecting husband never knew his marriage was in
jeopardy because he was unfamiliar with the warning
signs.
Identifying the Problem
The first step in solving a problem is knowing that
the problem exists. There are certain telltale signs
that serve as a wake-up call that a marriage is in
trouble. A husband doesn’t need to hire a private
detective or invest in sophisticated surveillance
equipment to find out if his wife is having an affair.
If he knows what to look for, all he needs are his
eyes, his ears and his personal knowledge of his wife.
Knowing what to look for is the key.
21 Categories of Telltale Signs
There are 21 categories of telltale signs, with
numerous signs in each category. Of course, no can be
expected to know them all. That’s why it makes sense to
invest in a relationship reference book like Is He
Cheating on You? in order to become more knowledgeable
about the warning signs. After all, most families have
a medical reference book in their home to alert them to
the signs and symptoms of health and medical problems.
The same thing applies to marital problems like
infidelity.
Universal Telltale Signs
Some of the signs of infidelity documented in Is He
Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs apply exclusively
to cheating men. But many of the signs are universal
and apply to both cheating husbands and cheating wives.
Additional information about infidelity can be found at
www.IsHeCheatingOnYou.com.
Although the website is primarily directed to women,
about a third of the e-mails received come from men
seeking advice about various telltale signs.
So What Should a Husband Do?
With infidelity affecting 80% of all marriages, the
husband who values his marriage would do well to become
familiar with the warning signs. He should always
strive to be aware of his wife’s feelings and keep
abreast of the things that are going on in her life.
It’s not about being overly suspicious. It’s about
keeping a finger on the pulse of his marriage.
Forewarned is forearmed. This way, he’ll be equipped to
recognize even the most subtle telltale signs. The
future of his marriage may well depend on his ability
to spot those telltale signs in time.
© Ruth Houston 2004 All rights reserved.
About The Author
Ruth Houston is the author of “Is He Cheating on
You? – 829 Telltale Signs”. For more information about
the book or about infidelity, visit http://www.IsHeCheatingOnYou.com or
http://www.InfidelityAdvice.com.
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